Saturday, May 11, 2013

Living out of my car.

Thanks so much for your good wishes for me, and for Annie. Thoughts matter, and intent is huge. I'm very grateful.

Can you see them?












 
I caught this shot by a hare's breadth.


Spud and I scooted out of Tucson yesterday.

Google predicts that trip will take you four hours. Next travel technology: get there via internet, because no car can travel like Google Maps can. I didn't time how long it actually took me, because that  makes me neurotic. Turning off the clock while I stop to rest(room). Putting off the nap so I can get anywhere sooner. It's not a good strategy for me. The trip was longer than I like.








Las Cruces is Cheryl's winter home, and Cheryl's winter home is where I'm resting in the lap of Luxury. When I'm not sitting on Luxury's knee.  [*slap*]  Fresh, Luxury! Luxury and me, we're very close. Cheryl, may your karma always get the gas mileage of a hybrid.






You're reminded of Ang Lee's cinematographic use of US Western scenery to symbolize psychological states?
Oh, sorry. I misheard.




My cousin and friend, Lori, gave me a bottle of this stuff. I make no claims about safety. I only claim that it works. If you've ever had the great good fortune to take diazepam/Valium in times of distress, it feels like that, but without that judgmental look they give you at one ER after another when you start asking for oxycotin for "back pain." I've heard.

What would Judy say here?



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54 comments:

Gaelyn said...

Glad you arrived safely. Seems you are in good hands for a little down time and reflection.

The Good Luck Duck said...

"Down" time. Yes, you're right, Gaelyn.

Texas Yellow Rose said...

Glad you made it to a safe haven. Remember that fresh Luxury is not a bad thing. Indulge. :)

Harriet said...

Sometimes just going thru the actions get you to a place where you can take a deep breath, seems you found such a place. Enjoy and breath!

Molly said...

I'm so sorry to hear that you two have split ways but it sounds like you're doing well so far. Lots of happy thoughts coming from my way to yours, which hopefully helps along with the Happy Camper! :)

Rick Doyle said...

Glad you made is safely to a place where you won't have to "live in your car"!

Pat said...

I'm wishing you both the best. I second the high opinion about 'to simplify'. Glenn's story is amazing. http://www.tosimplify.net/
Plus, you should check out Ken Ilgunas' vandwelling blog:

http://www.kenilgunas.com/p/vandwelling.html

And then there's Brad at VanTrekker:


http://vantrekker.blogspot.com/

Finally, look into a membership at Anytime Fitness. Not so much for the workouts (although they can be fun), but for 1700 locations in the US, that give you private bathrooms with showers anywhere you might be. A car dwellers best friend.

Take care, Pat

Kevin and Ruth said...

That first shot with the storm looming in the distance and the train going by is a great photo!

Ruth
www.travelwithkevinandruth.com

Al Bossence said...

Always like when I look at someone's photos & instantly recognize where the Blogger is. That rest area along I-10 is familiar to us. Overnighted there on our way home one time 3 years ago. Been in that 'Splitszville' situation you are in now more than once & can tell you from well worn experience that it will get better. May not seem that way at first but it will. And in time.....even better than you can imagine.

Nancy said...

Carry on. You are doing fine

The Good Luck Duck said...

Al, thanks for the words of encouragement. I believe you with my head, and later my heart will catch up.

That rest stop has intrigued me before, so I needed to stop and look. Seems like a little vehicle could cozy up to the proper side of one of those ramadas and get out of the wind.

Thanks, Ruth!

Pat, thanks for the resources. That Anytime Fitness looks promising - do you happen to know what their monthly fee is? They seem to be hiding it.

Me, too, Rick - thanks! I'm enjoying the respite from scrambling.

Molly, someone smart told me "thoughts are things," and I think she's right. Thank you for your good ones.

It's true, Harriet. I'm taking a breath.

Betty, luxury is awesome. It can get fresh with me anytime it wants.

Judy and Emma said...

Who let the rabbit out of the hat?? That's what I could say. ;)

Jan Goldfield said...

When you are ready for Arkansas, Arkansas is ready for you. With an empty RV, full hook ups and minimal gardening.

The Good Luck Duck said...

Jan, that keeps on sounding wonderful.

That's what you would say, Rocky? I thought you might say "___ ___!"

The Good Luck Duck said...

I am doing kind of okay, aren't I, Nancy?

Lynda Bogart Stilley said...

I am so glad you are safe and sound at Cheryl's. Relax, heal, look forward to the next adventure!

The Good Luck Duck said...

Thanks, Lynda!

Steven said...

City of Rocks is a real pretty place to stay at if you've not yet made it's acquaintance.

Donna K said...

Glad to see you kept the computer cuz I would sure miss your posts...selfish creature that I am!! Wishing you all the best as you press on.

Soaring Sun said...

Baby quails and big-eared rabbits...these are very cool pics for just driving along I-10. I seem to miss any real wildlife when I'm on that road. I will have to learn to look closer, like my friend Roxanne.

The Good Luck Duck said...

I haven't yet, Steve. I've heard good things, though.

Donna, you're exactly why I kept it! Thanks for potentially missing me.

Sue, you've made the common mistake of keeping your eyes on the road. It's a rookie error, but don't get down on yourself.

Maria Brown said...

I'm so glad your sense of humor is fully intact! Enjoy the luxury - it's very important for healing.

Love you

The Good Luck Duck said...

It sure feels good, so that must be healing. I love you, too.

wheelingit said...

Very happy you're in a luxurious place with a good friend. You deserve that lap...both to sit in, dwell in and swim in. Thoughts are with you, my dear!
Nina

klbexplores said...

It's nice to know that your well spring of support rallies around when you need it. Draw on it! It will get better!! I too would miss your posts... Even when it seems hard look at all the support that comes back at you!! Hugs!

Jim and Sandie said...

Any time you can find that kind of luxury - enjoy with every fiber of your being. I know I would. Glad you are safe even though you need to learn to make shorter travel days.

Kate said...

Google Maps keeps telling me the best way to go south from here is to take 95 through DC, and I keep telling it it's obviously never _tried_ to take 95 south through DC or it would never say any suck nonsense.

...it's so optimistic. I mean, I like that in a person, but it's not so useful in mapping software, you know?

Jerry n Kimberly Peterson said...

You are heading in the right direction...keep aiming for where your heart leads you and it will not misguide you!

Cyndi and Stumpy said...

Happy to hear you have a soft place to land! New Mexico is a healing place. You'll do well, there. Or anywhere, I am sure. But new Mexico is special for sure.

Tried for years to take pictures of baby quail. Damn things just blend right in!

xox

Sherry said...

Well I'm late to the party again. Wonderful to see all the support you have. Add mine to it. I knew you'd make your way but into the lap of luxury is top notch. Thoughts are things is my mantra. Am I the one who mentioned it??? Hard to control those buggers sometimes though. Thank you for sharing doesn't work well for me. If you find something that hammers the black ones be sure to let me know.

ppazucha said...

Best of luck to you both. I guess I am socially obtuse and didn't read the handwriting. Glad you found a place to settle in a little...


Cheers,
Peter
A retired photographer looks at life
Peter Pazucha dot Com
Life Unscripted on Wordpress

Anonymous said...

It may be just me, but there's something healing in gazing at mountains. Spent my first 19 years in Missouri, then moved to New Mexico...when we're in the midwest (as we are now), I'm counting down until I get the sight of mountains in the windshield again. And there's no place better than the southwest to see those storm clouds rolling in. Wonderful photos; you're making me homesick! If you are into walking a bit, saunter up the trail into the Organ Mtns & Dripping Springs (used to be a "sanitorium" back in the day). Very cool (visually & temperature-ly) back in there. Carry on; you're doing fine!

Renee

Kimbopolo said...

Good to know you are OK. (And funny as ever).

Allison said...

Years ago, Google maps told us we could drive across France in 3 days. So we planned to do just that and meet up with a bike tour. I have to tell you, Google is extremely optimistic in their estimates of how long stuff takes. Your new place to be in NM sounds delightful. Great pics of the sky.

intrepid-decrepit-traveler said...

Ohh, I love my Prius, but I wouldn't want to LIVE in it IF I didn't HAVE to. Right? Luxury sounds better. Feels better.

A person could almost read the newspaper thru that big-eared kid's translucent hearing organs.

We liked Las Cruces. Hope you will, too. Lots of good wishes headin' your way.

THE END.

Merikay said...

I took Valium some years ago when we were hving a real bad patch. OK, he moved out for awhile and I asked the Doctor for something so I could talk to him without crying. It really helped.

Recently when I had that bad leg cramp episode the doctor gave me a Valium perscription, just in case. Seems it is a good muscle relaxer too. Since then I had one threatening leg cramp event that was warded off by the Valium. Not something I want to use regularly, but it is good to know it is available in a bad time.

Let the days amd friendship be a soothing force. This too will pass.

Tesaje said...

Glad you have a soft landing but I didn't know rabbits had luxurious laps. Good to hear from you.

BeckyIO said...

Ack, I'm late catching up on things too. But I wish you and Annie the best of luck in your separate adventures, may happiness and good fortune find you both.

Just the other day I was at the top of one of the bluffs at Badlands National Park and I shot a beautiful panoramic picture of the view - with a pile of bighorn sheep poop in the foreground. It made me think of you, but in a good way not a bad way.

SwankieWheels said...

Yes, photos and attitude are great. Five months after my husband died, I was still crying. Being about to loose my job over it... doctor put me on Celexa. Side effect, inhibits your tear ducks and you can't cry. Well, if that's not a hoot... you can't cry, so you just go on about your business... and feel less sad. Kinda breaks the vicious cycle. Marvelous. That was so very long ago and now funny to look back on. You are a guiding light for others and you have no idea how many people out here love and respect you.

The Good Luck Duck said...

LONGHORN POOP??? Outstanding! How could that be anything BUT good? :D Thanks, Becky, for your good wishes. Those things will, indeed, find us both, and you, too.

Mary, rabbits are second only to Ducks for their fluffy landing pads.

Merikay, thank you for sharing that. And, your Valium, too, right? Because you shared your past pain, I will admit that the first night I cried so long and so hard that my face spasmed. The entire face. It was excruciating, and I was writhing around on the bed, trying not to cry because that was causing the spasm, but everything hurt so bad I had to cry. GAH! I took half a hit of Valium, which somehow didn't help my face, but helped everything else. I took magnesium, though, and that cut through the spasm. Now I carry Mg. AND Valium. AND now herbal V.

Nickie, same here. Except the news is so depressing - couldn't we just read a good John Irving novel through his ears? Cheryl is just letting me chill and veg here, not making me explore, but I think it's time to see Las Cruces! And, yes! THAT'S what Judy would say.

Allison, I just had to look at France in a Googly way. Now I'm about to say publicly, like a yokel, that FRANCE IS BIGGER THAN TEXAS. I had no idea it was so huge.

Thanks, Kim!

Renee, that sounds nice - thanks for the tip. I'm going to look that up. Yes, I think almost anywhere beautiful in nature is healing. The ocean has that effect on me, too, but mountains are easier to come by here.

Thanks, Peter. I also didn't see that giant hand coming to write on my wall, so I win for obtusity.

Sherry, of course it was you! For hammering the black thoughts, may I suggest Happy Camper? :o)

Cyndi, I finally decided I'd just add arrows to the pic if I had to. But, those little stinkers are CUTE.

Kim & Jerry, thanks. Where my heart leads me is a misfire, so I have to trust my friends' good advice right now.

Kate, exactly. In a friend I like optimism. In a travel guide, I want maximum cynicism and a skeptical attitude.

Sandie, you know it! I'm soaking it in and loving it.

Karen, it's true. I come back to read good things here repeatedly.

Thank you, Nina! It's a good, safe, kind place here.

The Good Luck Duck said...

Swankie, I like that concept, that it breaks the cycle. That makes a lot of sense. I'm so sorry that you went through that. But, that it can be any kind of funny now is a good thing. Thank you.

Contessa said...

'Thoughts are things' has been with me for over 25 years and my new one 'It is what it is' for a few months now.

Good the see you made the first step and moved. The heart will mend but you can't rush it. Meanwhile can you get a shot of that girl's tango shoes?

judilyn said...

Roxanne, did you read any of the one star comments at Amazon on the Happy Camper? Informative article on kava at Wikipedia.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kava

Steven said...

oh and one other place to see is the buckhorn saloon in pinos altos just north of silver city.

Peter + Beatrix said...

The best of luck in your new surroundings!

JO said...

good to read hear that you arrived safe and sound. I don't know what your type of place your staying in but I bet it's more comfy than Spud.
Those clouds you were heading for looked ominous to say the least. Stay happy and keep us posted.

JO said...

OH and HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

Nancy said...

Yes. Yes, you are OK. And you will be better after a while. I've been there and I know.
Nancy

The Good Luck Duck said...

Judie, thanks for your words of caution. They're worth considering seriously. I don't suggest anyone take these recreationally. But, a boost now and then when things feel quite bleak may be worth a calculated risk. Here's what the University of Maryland Medical Center page says:

"We don't know much about kava's effect on the liver. It may be that the kava supplements some people took were contaminated with other substances that caused liver damage. Or it is possible that some people already had liver problems before taking kava, or that they took a combination of kava and other prescription medications or herbs that damaged their livers. It is also possible that the doses generally recommended for kava affect people differently, so that a dose that would cause liver damage in one person might have no effect on the liver in another person."

Thanks, Nancy. I know you're right.

Happy Mother's Day, Jo! I'm staying with Cheryl (Desert Diva) right now.

Thank you, P+B!

I'll check it out, Steven.

Karen and Al said...

I'm glad Cheryl is able to put you up for a while. It's will be good to have a friend around, I'm sure. I guess she's finally figured out what to feed a vegan, huh? Beans, Cheryl, beans!

Good luck Roxi. You're in our thoughts.

The Good Luck Duck said...

It's very nice to be here with a friend, Karen. And, she makes exactly what I would make if I weren't lazy. Meals on my own involve a can opener and a spoon.

Thank you!

Kess said...

Roxanne, so sorry to read about your recent parting with Annie. I've been there myself and know how gut wrenchingly painful it is. I cried for a long time. I say let it flow when you feel the need. There's only one way to deal with that sadness and that's to go right through it. It will get better. Glad you are in a safe place with a kind friend. I just got to NM myself. I love it here. It's a very healing place. It certainly soothes my soul. I wish you all good things. Perhaps one day we will cross paths.

All the best, Kess

The Good Luck Duck said...

Thank you, Kess. I remember you went through this, and not very long ago, really. Like less than two years? Yes, you're right. There's no dodging or ducking.

I do hope we meet, after so many conversations and books and common places! Let's keep in touch.

Steven said...

Did ya ever notice how all jackrabbits have that look on their faces like they're saying "OMG DID YOU GUYS HEAR THAT!?!?!?!?!"

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